Thursday, February 19, 2009

Show & Tell Friday: The Lamp


To some, it just looks like a broken antique lamp. To me, it is a testament of love.


I bought this lamp at an antique store in my hometown the summer my husband and I were engaged. I was working as an apprentice at a theatre, making a decent wage but not a lot of extra money. Still, when I came across this lamp, I thought, "This will look beautiful in the home my new husband and I build together, and after all, we will need some lamps." I haggled over the price and purchased the lamp. Five months later, it was put on a moving truck and shipped across the country to the new home I shared with my brand-new husband.

The lamp did, indeed bring light and beauty to our house. It sat in our bedroom, and we would curl up in bed at night to read by its light. A year later, it followed us from our rented house to our condominum across town: the first (and so far only) house that we purchased together. The little lamp remained unscathed.

Fast forward another few months: the day of our friends' wedding shower. We were moving furniture in our bedroom, and I had set the lamp well out of the way of danger. As we were moving the mattress back on the bed, my husband set it down awkwardly for a minute, knocking the lamp off the table where I had placed it. It fell backwards and hit our metal baseboard heater. The porcelain globe shattered everywhere. After the reality of what had just happened set in, I ran from the room, choking down tears of disappointment and anger.

My husband followed me to the other room where I sat, crying bitterly, as I had not done since I was a child. I felt so foolish, but I was angry, too, and so sad. He apologized. Through my sobs, I blurted out, "I know it's stupid, but that lamp meant so much to me! And, I know I'll never find another one like it!" My husband wisely concluded that it was probably best just to let me cry it out. After all, I was six months pregnant and very emotional to begin with. While I continued to blubber in the front room, he returned to our bedroom and started gathering the broken pieces of the lamp shade. When I was calmer, he showed me what he had done. "I can't promise you I can fix it," he said, "but I'll do my best." I nodded with a sniffle. I forgave him, and we hugged. Finally, we headed off to the wedding shower.

Over the next couple of days, the two of us worked side by side, painstakingly working to reconstruct the lamp with super glue and tweezers. It was one heck of a puzzle, made more complicated by the fact that some pieces had been obliterated into a fine powder, as evidenced by some of the larger cracks in the pictures. While we worked, we talked about the importance of forgiveness in marriage and the value in not giving something up for lost just because it was broken. Though I would have liked to have my lamp whole again, I would not have traded the experience, because it brought my husband and me closer together and strengthened our marriage.

Today the lamp sits on my bedside table, a testament to the strength of our marriage and a reminder that forgiveness and hard work can fix even the most seemingly irreperable damage.




25 comments:

  1. I'll never look at something broken and mended the same again~ sweeeeeeeeet~

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  2. Beautiful Lamp ... Awesome Story! Thank you for sharing something so personal.
    Have a Blessed weekend.
    Debbie

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  3. I love your story! It is a beautiful lamp, with such a wonderful memory! I too have just now taken a few broken things I love and fixed them. I saw the church cookie jar that I glued back together, and thought I should throw it out. Now after reading your story, I shall keep it always! Thank you for sharing your wonderful story.

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  4. I really enjoyed this post,it shows how love and understanding works in a marriage.The lamp still looks so beautiful.

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  5. What a wonderful story behind the lamp. Thank you for sharing.

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  6. It's a beautiful lamp, and an even more beautiful story. Thank you so much for sharing it.

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  7. ....it has so much sentimental charm!!

    My show n tell this week is the final showing of my troll doll collection, from the tiniest to the 'oldest' couple. Do stop by if you can....and, have a great weekend.

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  8. Pretty lamp and great story of how tragedy great or small can bring people closer together.

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  9. That is a beautiful story, Bethany. What a nice way to begin my Friday :)

    Have a lovely weekend,
    C

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  10. What a sweet post and indeed...a testament to love. Sometimes our marriages need work to keep things patched. After 33 years of marriage, I've learned that lesson over and over.

    Judybug

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  11. Ah, now, you've made me cry! What a beautiful message. I love your lamp and knowing how important it is to you, your marriage is even more important. What a blessing you have in your husband. Mine would have chucked the whole mess in the trash and forgotten all about it. Thanks for the blessing your story is today.

    There is always a place for you at The Shadow of the Cross. Feel free to visit anytime.

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  12. The story makes the lamp special. Thanks for sharing. Happy Show and Tell Friday.

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  13. What a beautiful story and a very special lamp!
    ~Kelli

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  14. I am touched by your story.

    What a testimony of love and forgiveness. You have a beautiful lamp and a beautiful spirit.

    And what a sweet husband you have:)

    Thanks so much for sharing this with us so that the next time something like this happens to us, we can remember how you and your husband handled it--and at such an early time in your marriage:)

    Blessings,
    Linda C

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  15. What a beautiful story!!! Thanks for sharing it!!

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  16. That's a beautiful story that I think makes your lamp more special cracked and repaired than whole and unbroken; it is no longer something you picked out in an antique store, it's a story your and your husband's love.

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  17. What a bittersweet story. Thanks for sharing it.

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  18. Thank you for sharing your lamp and the story behind it! Very special!

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  19. What a beautiful story! Thank you for sharing your 'disaster' turned treasure! God bless you two in your journey!

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  20. What a valuable lesson...and your lamp is still a beautiful thing...you and your husband are a very loving couple...thanks so much for sharing your story.

    Warm Wishes,
    Susie

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  21. What a beautiful lamp and story. It really touches my heart.

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  22. What a wonderful post...and how amazing that the shattered lamp, through team work and patience, was rebuilt and still looks beautiful. I'm sure it now has even more meaning and value to you than it did before it broke. Thank you for sharing! :-)

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  23. How I enjoyed your post. What a special lamp and an even more special story behind it.

    Have a wonderful weekend☺

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  24. This reminds me of a broken-but-carefully-fixed lamp we have in our living room. It is a beautiful celadon ceramic antique, and my grandmother broke it many years ago. Her devoted husband painstakingly mended it for her, and it still works almost fifty years later! I often think of their long and happy marriage when I see that lamp...holding together despite everything.

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