Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Settling Down

I was reflecting today on the importance of finding joy in the mundaneness of everyday life, of finding the thrill in being a wife to the same man (or husband to the same woman) year after year; in being mother (or father) to the same children who need to be fed three times every day and bathed and read to and hugged and disciplined; in caring for a home year in and year out, day in and day out, with all its cyclical, necessary, thankless tasks. The world spins us the tale that such a life is boring, devoid of any excitement, even pitiable. And, perhaps it is...to those who are unwilling to go deeper. To those of us who are willing, the thrills are endless and well worth the sacrifice.

[I]t is just the people who are ready to submit to the loss of the thrill and settle down to the sober interest, who are then most likely to meet new thrills in some quite different direction. The man who has learned to fly and become a good pilot will suddenly discover music; the man who has settled down to live in the beauty spot will discover gardening.

This is, I think, one little part of what Christ meant by saying that a thing will not really live unless it first dies. It is simply no good trying to keep any thrill: that is the very worst thing you can do. Let the thrill go--let it die away--go on through that period of death into the quieter interest and happiness that follow--and you will find that you are living in a world of new thrills all the time. But if you decide to make thrills your regular diet and try to prolong them artificially, they will all get weaker and weaker, and fewer and fewer, and you will be...bored [and] disillusioned...for the rest of your life.

- C. S. Lewis, Mere Christianity


  1. What a wonderful post. I especially liked this statement:

    "To those of us who are willing, the thrills are endless and well worth the sacrifice."

    You're so right. We have to be willing, first, to hear God's call, and second, to follow His leading. I always need to remember that I can't do "it" alone - I need the Lord's constant help and grace in every daily task, even the most mundane. But He brings such joy and, as you wrote, such endless thrills that the sacrifices are more than worth it!


  2. Bethany,

    This post contains much truth. In today's society, it is very easy to be caught-up into "thrill seeking" that we miss the most important things in life (e.g., a sincere and active relationship with our Lord Jesus Christ, and serving our husbands and families). The world is constantly screaming to us to "seek thrills," but Christ has called us to seek Him and His Kingdom first, and when we do this, our needs will be satisfied.

    Oh, how much I needed to "hear" this message today! Thank you for reminding us, through this post, that "the thrills of the world" are not the essence of what we need in our lives.

    ~Mrs. Lady Sofia~

  3. Thank you, that is a great quote.


  4. Beautiful, and just what I needed to read this morning as I start another thrilling day in the trenches of motherhood. :-) God bless.

  5. I too have been reflecting on the ordinary and the beauty it contains. So much so that part of our Church year is called "Ordinary Time".

  6. Jenny - And don't you just love Ordinary Time? I feel like, if Lent and Advent are our big seasons of spiritual reform and conversion, Ordinary Time is when God tests our mettle and lays the foundation for our characters.

  7. Thank you for sharing this reflection. It is so very true that we often look for new "thrills" in our lives rather than settling down and embracing the blessings we're given every day.


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