Monday, May 10, 2010

Proverbs 31 Reflections, Part I: Verse 10

"Bride with a Fan" by Marc Chagall

In the coming weeks, I am going to be doing a little reflective series on the Proverbs 31 wife. Just snippets here and there, in between my other posts, as the mood strikes me and the Spirit moves. I hope you will all chime in. In the midst of this world that puts so much undue and misguided pressure on women, we need the support, wisdom, and fellowship of our Sisters in Christ!

So, let us begin:

"When one finds a worthy wife,
her value is far beyond pearls."

This may seem stupidly obvious, but it is worth noting: Being a worthy wife is a worthy endeavor.

Proverbs 31:10-31 is titled "The Ideal Wife" in many English Bibles. It seems like a tall order, but in fact, there is a pervasive attitude today in the world that is much more demanding: that women must be ideal at everything: successful employees, exciting lovers, thoughtful wives, dedicated mothers, clever, creative, well-dressed, trim. The list goes on. Then, when we quite naturally become overwhelmed by the expectations that bombard us from every side, we are told not to worry. Gone are the days of the housewife in heels, gone the days of the power-suit Superwoman; cut yourself some slack, pour a glass of wine, and have your husband take the kids to the park while you soak away the stresses of the day in a hot bath.

Yeah. Right.

The truth is that the world is spinning a vision of womanhood that is both too restrictive and demanding and, conversely, too unrestricted and indulging. However, a return to the days of yore--be they the power-suit '80s, the lassez-faire '60s, the June Cleaver '50s, or the idyllic turn-of-the-century--is not the answer. Yet, there is no need to reinvent the wheel as we look for a way to lead lives as modern women who wish to find fulfillment both in this life and the next. We don't have to consult the handbooks of yesteryear. God lays it all out for us in the greatest handbook of all, His Holy Word.

All those other hats we put on, the myriad roles we play each day and through the different stages of our lives--we can't put them all first. Something must take prominence. And, for those of us who are wives, it okay--and good--and worthy to give this role a place of honor, privelege, and priority. How do we know?

Because, to use the words of an old Sunday School song, "the Bible tells me so."
With all that is vying for our attention and time, it is all too easy to take our marriages for granted, to let the role of wife fall by the wayside or to set it on the backburner. After all, we may think, this is the one thing in my life that shouldn't be transient. This is 'til death do us part. I've got time to work on the wife thing when my other ducks are in their rows.

But, this is foolish thinking. Earlier in Proverbs, we read that "The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands, the foolish woman tears hers down." To be wise and worthy wives, we must build our houses. We must invest in our marriages, which are meant to be earthly demonstrations of Christs relationship to His Bride, the Church.

Don't wait for tomorrow. Determine today that you will pray for a vision of true Godly womanhood, and strive today--and every day--to become a worthier wife. It is worth your time. It is worth the effort. It is a worthy way to spend a life. If you are already doing these things, be encouraged, and keep fighting the good fight, living the good life.


  1. What an awesome reminder of the importance of being a wife. It's exactly because marriage is "til death do us part" that we have to work on our marriages - they are of utmost importance!


  2. Great reflection! I'm looking forward to reading the rest of your Proverb 31 thoughts!


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